Many women who know without question they do not ever wish to have kids seek out a tubal ligation. When the ladies are young, many doctors feel the need to ask numerous questions as an effort to talk them out of sterilization. Other doctors will not do the procedure in any way.
Some childfree girls , however , some get lucky and find a ready doctor to perform the procedure. Even allowing for this many girls then have to clarify and explain why they do this before, during and after. How would mothers feel if countless questions came at them before they had youngsters, like, So why is it you would like children? Are you sure? How can you be sure you will not regret it? Or questions while she is attempting to get pregnant: Are you sure you're definite? Or after: So why is it you wanted kids? How does one feel now that you are a mother? Do you regret it? These kind of questions seem silly, but it gives you a flavor for how it feels when it's about not having kids. These ladies are adults and should not have to explain or excuse what they feel is the best for them.
The explaining and justifying isn't just for ladies. 20 something guys who are sure of the same get the 3rd degree also. For 28 year old Toby who had a vasectomy, he probably did it on nationwide television. The Today Show did a piece on him and his choice to end his reproductive life. He had to offer solutions to all categories of questions like how it will affect finding an other half, how will he feel about ending his folks line, what about leaving a legacy, and the like.
The segment even has a sex consultant advising what guys like Toby should do as they consider the choice not to have youngsters, they have to glance at the possibility that their absence of parental desire has to do with wounds from history, or bag they may still be carrying. Fair enough.
But should it not work the other far too for those who think that they need children? Like asking oneselfâ€"Does my wish stem from injuries from past times? Do I want a child to help me heal those wounds from the past? Do I want to be a parent so I'm able to parent the way That I always wished to be parented?
For men and women who are positive they do not need children and who feel sterilization is the right option for them, when will we as a society be well placed to just leave it at that? When the choice not to reproduce is just as accepted as the choice to reproduce, that's when we are going to have true reproductive freedom.
Some childfree girls , however , some get lucky and find a ready doctor to perform the procedure. Even allowing for this many girls then have to clarify and explain why they do this before, during and after. How would mothers feel if countless questions came at them before they had youngsters, like, So why is it you would like children? Are you sure? How can you be sure you will not regret it? Or questions while she is attempting to get pregnant: Are you sure you're definite? Or after: So why is it you wanted kids? How does one feel now that you are a mother? Do you regret it? These kind of questions seem silly, but it gives you a flavor for how it feels when it's about not having kids. These ladies are adults and should not have to explain or excuse what they feel is the best for them.
The explaining and justifying isn't just for ladies. 20 something guys who are sure of the same get the 3rd degree also. For 28 year old Toby who had a vasectomy, he probably did it on nationwide television. The Today Show did a piece on him and his choice to end his reproductive life. He had to offer solutions to all categories of questions like how it will affect finding an other half, how will he feel about ending his folks line, what about leaving a legacy, and the like.
The segment even has a sex consultant advising what guys like Toby should do as they consider the choice not to have youngsters, they have to glance at the possibility that their absence of parental desire has to do with wounds from history, or bag they may still be carrying. Fair enough.
But should it not work the other far too for those who think that they need children? Like asking oneselfâ€"Does my wish stem from injuries from past times? Do I want a child to help me heal those wounds from the past? Do I want to be a parent so I'm able to parent the way That I always wished to be parented?
For men and women who are positive they do not need children and who feel sterilization is the right option for them, when will we as a society be well placed to just leave it at that? When the choice not to reproduce is just as accepted as the choice to reproduce, that's when we are going to have true reproductive freedom.
About the Author:
Laura Carroll is the author of Families of Two, is very experienced on the childfree choice, and debates this topic and plenty more at her top childfree blog, La Compete Childfree.
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